by David Illig
He followed his bride to be to every flower store, to every cake tasting appointment, through every page of every bridal magazine invented and now it is his turn. Let’s face it, a wedding is mostly about one thing; the bride. She is primarily the one who is fulfilling her dreams from when she was a child and making every fantasy come true. And yes, the men enjoy the party that a wedding brings and are fulfilling their dreams by marring the girl that they love but, they are secretly living through it for one thing; the bachelor party.
The bachelor party is his time to shine. It’s the only thing throughout the entire wedding process that is all about him. And that’s what bachelor party planning entails; giving him the night he deserves. Most likely the one to plan the bachelor party is the best man. The ushers are also involved but it’s the best man that needs to take the lead. The first thing that the best man should do is to find out what the groom would like for his last night of freedom.
It is pretty clique to think that all men would like to see a half naked girl dancing on their laps. This does tend to be the bachelor party trend though. A lot of men feel like they want to get “it out of their system” in order to settle down. Again, it is up to what the groom wants. If this is something that he would like to do, then it is up to the best man and his ushers to fulfill his every dream. But, if you are looking for an alternative, there are plenty of other things you can do.
Maybe the groom is a little more wholesome and not interested in seeing anyone but his future wife dance around half naked. That is okay also. Instead of planning a trip to the strip bar, plan a trip to an adult arcade where you can buy alcohol and food as well as play the games. Or you might want to go to a batting cage. Although it does not serve food or drinks, that is something you can do afterwards. Think about taking your buddy and all of his friends to play paint ball. It is a good way to release nervous energy and bond with the guys. Hire a limo wherever you decide to go to eliminate any problems with a designated driver. Everyone at the bachelor party can have an equal amount of fun.
The guest list and who should pay are some things that a lot of guys have trouble figuring out. Who should be invited to the bachelor party? It should definitely be the father of the bride and groom and any male relatives. Of course, the ushers should be on the guest list. If you have any doubt about who should be invited, talk to the bride. She will be able to provide you with a proper list of who should be invited plus their addresses or telephone numbers. While you’re at it, at this point you should talk to the bride about some things that she would not appreciate her groom getting involved in. Be a good friend, save your friend from any problems in the future. Who pays for the night is a little more tricky. You might get lucky with a father or father-in-law of the groom who is willing to pay for the whole night. But, if that is not the case add up how much you think the night would cost and divide it by the number of guys going. Leave out the groom so he does not have to shell out anything. Don’t forget to add in tips to the cost of each event.
Above all, the bachelor party is a time to let loose and have a good time. Be the best man you can be and give the groom everything he wants.
Zara Jones is a part time teacher in Florida. Check out these great Party Planning Tips resources and articles for great tips on planning a party of any type.